You are Responsible for Your Happiness

My clients love me because I call them on their bullshit. They know this is done from a place of love & with the intent of helping them reach their next level. This post is written with that same intention.

When you're a kid, you have very limited power. You live where you're told. You go to school where you're told. Your whole environment is chosen by other people. They make the rules.

Those experiences help create who you are. Sometimes they're good & sometimes it was shit. It was never 100% of either. As a child, you should have been loved and protected. Maybe that didn't happen. If that's the case, I am truly sorry & I am in no way discounting what you went through or your pain.

As an adult, YOU HAVE ALL THE POWER. You make the rules.

Your childhood experiences can hold you back, but there comes a time when you can't blame a shit life on your childhood. You either work on healing yourself & moving forward or you stay stuck & get to hold on to blame.

​Healing & moving forward isn't easy & it takes time, but it's sooooo worth it.

I find the most powerful places to start are with forgiveness, cord cutting & belief work. You can do these things on your own or you can get help. These are all google-able. 

Forgiveness can be the hardest. The more pain you're holding onto, the harder it is to let go. Forgive the situation & yourself. I find there's always some self blame or feeling that you were stupid for allowing it. Let that shit go.
Do ho'oponopono.
Picture the situation & the people, let all the emotions come up, then imagine all the color & emotion draining from the picture until it's black & white. Then picture it disappear, turn to ash, float away or whatever way you want to get rid of it.

Do cord-cutting. You can find all kinds of YouTube videos that walk you through it.

Belief work is where you start moving forward. Think about what you want. Then list all the reasons You can't have it. Those are your current beliefs. Start looking for how they're not true. How can you change them to support what you want? Start looking for evidence that proves your new beliefs are correct.